If women were the complication I think by now with all our high tech and data available we would have solved that. I have never thought I was complicated at all though. Stubborn, rebellious even that’s more me for sure but I don’t consider those complicated. I think this perception of complication comes from being underestimated and not given the time, space and respect to be heard. It is much easier to simply say we are complicated and go about what they were doing. I believe it is life that is complicated and women are attuned to that more than others.
Women just know this, we have always known life doesn’t have to be that complicated. So often we make our own messes in life and that’s what gets complicated. The now what do I do question because of the situation. I can’t tell you the number of times I have said that too. Life shouldn’t or need not be this complicated. Hard maybe but complicated no. Uncomplicating life is like unraveling a tangled web where we realize it wasn’t life at all but our own choices and decisions that created it. We were just trying though to make something easier, better, faster even and it didn’t work. Failures are often seen as complications and that too is misleading.
It is not only our own life where we work to uncomplicate things but others too. As women we so often have taken on the responsibility to make life easy and less complicated for others. We take care of our families, employers, friends and neighbors without a thought more than doing something nice for them or making it easy for them in a tough time. It’s what we do to remind others that life is just as simple as loving each other sometimes.
It is a select few that ever seem to figure that out. The difference between hard and complicated. Hard being that we have to work at it, figure something out, not give up on it but be consistently pushing to maintain that simplicity. Quite honestly, I think the more we automate and make things instant the more complicated life gets. The assumption being we have more time to do other things that in reality is never the case and if it is we miss out on the things our soul needs to enjoy the simple beauty of every day living.
It is our nature as women to help others navigate the hard in life and lead them to where it is more simple, easy and comfortable. We provide that to those we love and in doing it most don’t understand how it is possible. Where does our strength come from? How is it possible we keep doing it even when our own exhaustion is so overwhelming? Is this in fact what makes it possible for others to call us complicated? The fact that we can keep going even after the strongest warrior has left the battefield?
As women we know we are often the ones who must see it though. It is not that we too are not tired or want to give in but we often don’t. We stick with it and with each other, pulling and pushing until it is over. We forego our own needs in the process and feel it throughout out bodies but yet we keep going. I can’t explain it myself and yet I know I have done this myself in tough hard situations in my own life. I do it by instinct that it is what needs to be done and I do it. It is simple actually to see what it is to do and what is needed but not always so easy to accomplish. That is the difference between life being complicated and how we women get aligned with that same label.
I often think the way to simplifying life is to see it for what it truly is, a journey through nature. The closer we stay to that the less complicated we end up creating our lives. We realize the abundance, comfort, and satisfaction of needs naturally and without all the extra fussiness that makes things feel heavy and hard. We coexist with nature learning from her and getting the training we need to navigate the hard things. We also realize that even when things are hard they are can be more simple.
So to me I don’t think life is complicated either. Finding our purpose, being healthy, feeling loved are all uncomplicated when we seek the alignment to our true nature. Hard maybe but complicated no.
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