Love to Give
Posted on February 4, 2020 by dragonspitapothecary
As women we are naturals at giving to others. We are nurturers by design and it shows in all that we do. We naturally gravitate towards areas in life where we can help others, especially those we love. Our love of giving extends to how we like to do nice things for another person. We create cute little surprises and gifts that we know this person will love and think of us when they see it. We are always thinking of upcoming birthdays and anniversaries so we can send an old-fashioned card or message. We also give every day in just basic needs our family has for getting help on homework, keeping the house cleaned and meals readied. Women are giving in so many ways both large and small every day.
We give so much of ourselves in all that we do that often there isn’t much left for our own needs. We often realize that everyone else’s needs are fulfilled and satisfied but we have yet to receive the same. We push that aside though and think about those we love and what they are needing. Even on Mother’s Day many of us will still be making sure lunches are packed and homework checked for the next school day. I’ve even been known to do laundry on Mother’s Day! We all do it. It is what we do as moms, wives and well just women.
With all that women do today between juggling careers, home and businesses we often overlook what we are lacking and going without. We make up for it in little treats such as getting our nails done or going to a spa. We label self-care as things we do or must schedule rather than something we afford ourselves daily. It’s selfish to just think of ourselves when we know our children or spouse need something more than we do right? Too often we put ourselves last resulting in pain, unhealed wounds, emptiness and loneliness that after awhile we just don’t know where it stems from. We know that we give and give and give but rarely are we asked if we have what we need or are our needs being met in this process. We push aside our own feelings and needs in the interests of our children and family. We want to give them our best and yet we don’t know what that is when it comes to ourselves. As women we are experts at saying everything is fine when often that is the farthest way to describe how we feel.
We owe it to each other to take a serious in-depth look at one another and overcome the insecurities of needing to show the world we can do it all. In the 1950’s and 60’s when women started entering the workforce it was just expected they could keep house and work. Today we continue these same generational lies and it is literally killing our souls and our health! I don’t know about you but I don’t feel like Super Woman very often. Instead I feel tired, exhausted and overwhelmed at all that is on my to-do list. This doesn’t make me weak either. Why we insist on keeping up this charade is crazy to me! I once heard a saying that, “Women are expected to work like they don’t have families and keep up with their families like they don’t work.” I fail at doing that well every day.
Since it is technically the “modern age” of people now I’m declaring we should make 2020 a year where we introduce some changes to this situation so many of us find ourselves in. I think it is beautiful to love to give and it is our nature to nurture and love in this respect but we have to reclaim and preserve some of that for ourselves. I’m not talking about leaving our families or quitting our jobs but I am talking about getting some acceptance and recognition that it’s time we reset the expectations of what this looks like in our lives. As a result of our continuous giving to others and trying to keep up the Super Woman charade so many of us suffer from low self-esteem, a lack of confidence, feelings of being worthless. We let ourselves be judged and compared rather than being accepted for who we are and what we need.
Let’s start by really stepping across the lines and connecting with each other as true friends living in same space. Trust me that mom with the always clean mini-van who is early in the pick-up lane at school does not have her stuff really together like that. She is not any different than the mom who’s working 60 hours a week and barely getting sleep. We are all suffering under the weight of giving so much of ourselves to everyone else that we have nothing to give ourselves for our own needs. It’s time we put behind the persona that if we’re struggling in life that makes us weak. I seriously don’t know a woman who is not suffering in some way because of her mountain sized to-do list of responsibilities and never ending mom guilt for not being a perfect Pinterest creative mom who always has perfect hair, nails and all the crafting supplies needed for a project. That’s certainly not me and it’s probably not you either.
I Love Myself
This month I encourage all of us to try this roller ball blend to help us reclaim our own self-love and acceptance that we have needs and those needs deserve our attention too. This is from the I Am Fabulous Book written by Desiree Mangandog. It is called I Love Myself and it specifically helps us define self-care that actually is self-care. Her direction is to use this daily and make the time for rest, meditation, eating better and moving our bodies. This blend helps us begin that process in the act of self-love.
In a 5ML roller ball bottle add these oils:
12 drops doTERRA Grapefruit
8 drops doTERRA Eucalyptus
5 drops doTERRA Coriander
5 drops doTERRA Ginger
2 drops doTERRA Cinnamon
1 drop doTERRA Lemon
1 drop doTERRA Lavender
1 drop doTERRA Spearmint
Fill the rest with fractionated coconut oil. Apply it daily to your wrists and over your heart.
You can get all you need to make this roller ball blend right here:
dragonspitapothecary.com/I-Love-Myself
The roller ball bottles comes in sets of 6 so you can make some to share with others, like that momma in the car pool lane. This is a powerful roller ball blend that gives us the support we need to clearly prioritize personal needs, take care of ourselves more directly and have the strength of spirit to take charge of our life. We all deserve to step fully into our power and be able to stand with others as worthy, beautiful
Join me on this journey of loving ourselves more this year and transforming our health as a result. Learn more at dragonspitapothecary.com/home