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Luxury vs Lavishness

I think we have become misguided on what living in luxury looks like. By this I mean we have mistaken lavishness for luxury. We see people lots of things, a big expensive house and cars and think they must be wealthy. Yet when we look deeper we often don’t see the very thing that was hoped for by accumulating things. Fulfillment. Contentment. Happiness. At the core of it all is the basic need to feel security where we can be our best self. In my opinion, lavishness doesn’t make that happen.


Lavishness is extravagance and excess. Our closets are packed to the point we can’t close them, our mailbox is stuffed with bills and yet we want more. It is like an unfilled hunger that never goes away. We think by having labels, brands, trending styles we are letting others know we have made it in life. We are living our best life. Others with less see this and mistake it for wealth and all the things they cannot have or have not figured out how to get. Life looks easy, carefree and all that any of us could wish for when we have it all.


What I have found is lavishness is often a topical element only. It can go away as fast as it came leaving someone’s life in financial ruin. It is accessible to those who can afford and is unforgiving and exclusive to those who cannot. There is jealousy, greed and manipulation possible because we become threatened by others who may take what we have. We become limited in where we go, who we associate with and what we do because it can be seen as unsavory to be seen doing something outside your circle. We purchase things to the point we don’t know what we have and yet we are always taken with the latest new things.


Luxury on the other hand, especially natural luxury, doesn’t care what your income, hairstyle, hashtag or lifestyle looks like. There’s not comparison of house sizes, car and clothing brands or even the latest trend. It is not driven by these things and yet it can be seen, felt and experienced in all the ways we physically see lavishness. The difference is luxury doesn’t go away or become inaccessible when your bank account is below a certain amount. Natural luxury cannot be bought and yet it feels divinely rich against our skin and fills our soul in a way lavishness never can. Luxury is within us all the time and isn’t competitive with who has more. How could we even begin to compare and compete with something that is uniquely custom fitted to us?


When we feel luxurious we feel rich, confident, fulfilled and carefree. We are aware of our potential and make the calculated risks to get to our goals. Our life represents where we are going and what is important to us. We have an energy and appeal that is attractive because it stands out. It is in how we move, respond, think and experience every day life. We are happy and know we have enough of what we need and everything we need to be successful, fulfilled, complete. Luxury is an energy in us that radiates when we think life is limitless and filled with possibilities. It is experiencing our best day and giving our best to it every day.


The biggest difference in lavishness and luxury is own perception of what it looks like. We have mistaken a good life to mean all these things we own and yet that often doesn’t give us what we need. We mistake a big social media following for friends and yet we feel lonely. These are lavishly excessively bold things that make us stand out but don’t give us the attention and spotlight we crave. Being monetarily rich and having lots of things, houses and cars seems like a wonderful way to live but often the same problems we have when we don’t have all that are still knocking at our door.


GIven the choice I would choose luxury over lavishness. I would choose something custom to me. Something I could manifest and expand knowing I could count on it to always be there. I would choose long lasting quality and security. I would choose my natural way of being me and feel the best I could feel every day o