Moving in Flow with Changes
I notice changes the most when I am resisting them. When there’s something I’m not wanting to do or that I don’t think I’m ready for but that is necessary. The resistance is of my own doing of course and things would be a lot easier if I just went with them. More than anything I resist because I think not doing so means giving up the controls. After all it’s my life shouldn’t I at least be in charge of it?
There are several sayings for it. Roll with the punches. Flow with the changes. Move with instead of against the wind. All of them indicating it is easier to move in flow with life than against it. While true the path, direction and sometimes just what they are doing doesn’t feel in alignment with where we wanted to go. Like going with that tide of change would take us off course from our goals or change them entirely. Sometimes that happens too, other times it leads us closer than we imagined. We never really know until after wards most of the time.
A large part of living naturally is moving with nature. At first I admit it feels counterintuitive, much like rolling with changes. What I realized though in my own journey is the awkwardness is often because it goes against what I’ve learned in how things are supposed to happen. There’s a big difference in so many things when you look at the supposed to do and happen versus the what actually happens and what feels right for you. That difference becomes glaring when we start aligning to moving more naturally in our life.
I have found when I let go of the societal supposed to thinking I actually feel incredible freedom and can see more clearly what is right for me. In my own experience I feel more in control of my life and less concerned with what others may think about it too. The awkwardness gives way to letting my true self emerge and moving into things that fit me better and more comfortably. I feel like myself and I am not as stressed, exhausted or overwhelmed by life. The demands on my shoulders didn’t change. I still have to work to provide for the family. There’s still laundry and housework but I feel like I can manage them because my mindset and perspective about those changes has changed. I see their purpose and need but I feel in control of how I get them done.
Where I notice this most is in my corporate career. Let’s face it, not many of us feel in control of much of anything in the workplace. We are in back to back meetings all day and still have a full inbox and other things that need to be done. We have metrics we must meet and deadlines to come in at. Yet when I see these things in the eyes of being in flow with changes and nature I see a lot more calmness. I can approach my work level headed, focused and even motivated by it. The bigger picture of what that job provides for me stays in front and I can move with the changes knowing each change, deadline, frustrating situation is not only helping my family and I financially but letting me learn how to flow better.
I think it’s great to be ambitious and want to move up the corporate ladder but most of the time our motivation for doing so is the pursuit of money, recognition and status. These things are not bad but if they are our only motivator then we are likely to miss the journey of getting to the top as well as enjoying it when we get there. Somewhere we have tied our ability to live well with a big salary. Sure more money makes things more comfortable but it doesn’t make it more fulfilling necessarily. It doesn’t mean we won’t have bills or debt. It doesn’t mean we will have love in our life, friends we connect with deeply or even happiness.