How is Your Self-Esteem?
- amyk73
- Jan 9, 2019
- 3 min read
Updated: Sep 4, 2019
How do you feel right now about yourself?
Are you happy? Excited? Content? Just blah or meh?
Are you tired? Feeling stressed?
Are you distracted?
When was the last time you did a check to see if how you’re feelings were making you feel about yourself?
Sometimes it can be hard to put a label on those feelings and that’s where these cute little emoji charts can help.
Our feelings generate thoughts we have about ourselves that can translate into larger perspectives impacting our self-esteem. We can all be critical of ourselves at times when we make a mistake or things didn’t go as we planned. We all go through times when we may not feel good about ourselves or are having trouble seeing our worth. For me it’s usually when I’m going through a hard time of criticism at work or something has happened in my life that makes me question who I am.
While these feelings are normal and healthy they can in the long term form into self-descriptive labels we apply to ourselves, like:
I can’t do that.
I’m no good at that.
It will all just go wrong so why bother?
I’ll never make that goal.
I really like the Mayo Clinic article here about describing what low self-esteem looks like compared to good self-esteem. https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/self-esteem/art-20047976
It’s healthy to assess ourselves in terms of our self-esteem every now and again because those feelings and thoughts greatly influence every aspect of our lives, including our physical well-being, attention, emotions and spiritual connection. When we feel bad about ourselves we may not be dedicating the time we want to working out or eating well. We may feel sluggish, tired and drained of energy. We may be in a bad mood or distant from those we love.
A Good Self-Esteem Doesn’t Mean You Are Full of Yourself
Feeling good about yourself doesn’t mean you are arrogant or prideful. It simply means you accept who you are and recognize your good, strong capabilities while recognizing your imperfections. Your imperfections don’t overrule your good qualities but they help make up who you are and guide you to opportunities for self-improvement.
It’s ok to feel good. In fact, it feels good to feel good. Our bodies and minds are more productive when we feel good. We are more motivated, have a higher energy level and are more confident in our capabilities. We are less likely to get sick or feel stressed out. All of this just as a result of a couple feelings associated with happiness.
Figuring Out What You Feel
It can take time to get comfortable talking to yourself or spending time with your thoughts to sort through what you are feeling and how that may be influencing your self-esteem.
There is no right or wrong way to do this practice but it definitely takes some intentional focus.
I like to diffuse oils that support this process. Oils that have worked for me include:
It helps to sit somewhere quiet that you can spend a few minutes to yourself. Start by taking a few deep breaths and closing your eyes. Listen to your heartbeat and start picking up on what your body is telling you.
It can help to jot down what you are feeling and sensing.
Once you have a good sense of what you are feeling then you can start to sort through those feelings to see how they are supporting you positively or negatively.
Self-Esteem Support
Whether things are going well or not with your self-esteem these essential oils help us balance our feelings and work through challenges we may have identified.
Incorporating these into your diffuser or as part of a regular routine are helpful to supporting focus to your self-esteem and becoming more in-tune to feelings that trigger negative self-talk. The sooner we recognize we are criticizing ourselves negatively the faster we can work to change that so we mitigate harm to our self-esteem.
Interested in more?
If you have questions about using oils to support self-esteem work please reach out!
amyk@dragonspitapothecary.com
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