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Getting to the Core of Self Love

Updated: Sep 4, 2019

As I looked back at this month’s self-love posts, a common thread has appeared. I didn’t intend that as I started writing each post but it’s come out nonetheless. When we think of self love and we are already feeling overwhelmed it can seem like just another chore to fit into a busy schedule. When we force it, that’s just not going to feel good or worthwhile in that situation no matter how much we try to shoehorn it in.

We sometimes cannot simply say a certain part of our day is just for ourselves or that we must always put ourselves first. While taking care of yourself does help you feel better and be a better person in the care and service to others it’s just not how some of us get to live sometimes. The core of it all is we have to be realistic about our time, energy, focus and expectations. If you make self love feel like a burden then it will be just like all the other responsibilities and obligations you are trying to juggle.

What is True Self Love?

So, if we can’t always demand, protect or declare time to ourselves, is true self love all about service to others?

I don’t think so. See, true self love is about listening to and honoring the messages coming from the inside of our heart and soul. It’s about feeding into the idea that we do deserve to be treated well not only by others but by ourselves too. That act does not have to be fancy, time consuming, scheduled or even planned.


Here’s what I’ve walked away with this month as I’ve studied self love along side you in this blog:

Be nice to yourself.

Talk to yourself with kindness, love and respect.

Take opportunities to enjoy doing things you like, being with people you love and spending time being creative on your own.

Be good to your body. Feed it well, give it rest and move it around.

Let real opportunities come to you by freeing your spaces in your physical environment, heart, mind and soul.

Be you and don’t make excuses for that.